By Natori Moore
Are you going to be married
soon? As you make plans for your special day, it’s a good idea to
take time to evaluate the compatibility between you and your spouse-to-be.
The dresses, tuxedoes, cake, photographer and guest list can all be in
place, but adding an understanding of the basic temperaments of you and
your spouse can help make love last a lifetime.
One simple way to understand
temperament compatibility is to compare the element of your astrological
sun sign with your mate’s according to the table below. The dates
listed for each sign are approximate depending on your year of birth.
SIGN
ELEMENT
|
SIGN
NAME
|
BIRTHDATES
|
Fire
Signs: |
ARIES |
Mar
20 - Apr 20 |
 |
LEO |
July
20 - Aug 20 |
 |
SAGITTARIUS |
Nov
20 - Dec 20 |
Earth
Signs: |
TAURUS |
Apr
20 - May 20 |
 |
VIRGO |
Aug
20 - Sep 20 |
 |
CAPRICORN |
Dec
20 - Jan 20 |
Air Signs: |
GEMINI |
May 20 - Jun 20 |
 |
LIBRA |
Sep 20 - Oct 20 |
 |
AQUARIUS |
Jan 20 - Feb 20 |
Water Signs: |
CANCER |
Jun 20 - Jul 20 |
 |
SCORPIO |
Oct 20 - Nov 20 |
 |
PISCES |
Feb 20 - Mar 20 |
Signs in the same element
group (e.g., Fire signs, Air signs, etc.) tend to get along best with each
other because they share the same perspective and values in life.
Fire signs tend to have high energy, leadership skills and imagination,
yet they can be self-centered and impatient. Earth signs like to
accumulate material goods, show they care with practical gifts, and have
something to show for their efforts. They can, however, also be stubborn
or stingy. Air signs love conversation, meeting new people and gaining
knowledge, yet they can be easily distracted and superficial. Water
signs thrive on experiencing deep emotions, investigating beneath the surface,
yet also keeping their privacy. They can take things too personally
and get easily discouraged. The table below sets forth the best and
most difficult matches for your sun sign element.
Your
Sign Element
|
Best
Match
|
Second
Best
|
Challenging
|
Most
Difficult
|
Fire
|
Fire
|
Air
|
Water
|
Earth
|
Earth
|
Earth
|
Water
|
Air
|
Fire
|
Air
|
Air
|
Fire
|
Earth
|
Water
|
Water
|
Water
|
Earth
|
Fire
|
Air
|
If you and your spouse-to-be
fall into the “Best Match” or “Second Best Match” categories, you’ve got
natural compatibility and an extra “edge” to help you work out your differences
when they do come up. If you and your intended partner fall into
the “Challenging Match” or “Most Difficult Match” categories, don’t despair.
It simply means you’ll need to work harder to understand each other’s point
of view. Aim to understand the strengths of your partner’s sign element
and to appreciate his or her natural gifts. The differences you find
between you can keep you both on your toes, and keep your marriage growing!
The good news is that there
are positive gifts that each sign element can bring to a marriage.
FIRE signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) bring Enthusiasm -- coming up with
new ideas, keeping passion alive, being creative. EARTH signs (Taurus,
Virgo, Capricorn) bring Practicality – managing money, making investments
and planning for the future. AIR signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius)
bring Humor – making new social contacts, talking things out, taking things
lightly. WATER signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces) bring Depth – sharing
emotions, giving understanding, bonding deeply with another.
Of course, there’s a lot
more in the candy store where astrology’s concerned, but the Sun sign element
compatibility we’ve looked at here is a good place to start to understand
yourself and your spouse, and help you make the most of your marriage.
Here’s to many happy and fruitful years together.
Originally appeared in
Vista Views Newsmagazine Wedding Planner 2000.
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