By Natori Moore
I can hear the complaints
already. “But Libra and Scorpio aren’t the only relationship signs!”
That’s true. Every sign is relationship-oriented in its way.
Cancer, for example, will cuddle with you on a cold night. Aquarius
wants to be your friend.
But when it comes right down
to L-O-V-E – that Sleepless in Seattle, Splendor in the Grass, Hollywood
kind of love – we’re talking Libra and Scorpio. Romantic and sexual
love falls under the domain of these two signs, and those born under these
signs can have much to teach us about how to successfully manage relationships.
The astrological relationship
progression from Libra to Scorpio is supposed to go something like this.
Lovely Libra, sign of romance, meets someone likeable (you, for instance)
at a party, charms you with social graces, invites you to several lighthearted,
romantic dates over the course of a few months, then after a year or more,
asks for a marriage or commitment. As cool and detached air signs,
Librans value the social aspects of relationship. They enjoy the
courting period when beauty, conversation and social grace are used to
woo a partner.
Ideally, once the Libra courting
period has reached its peak, we enter into the realm of Scorpio.
Yes, it’s a little like entering the Scorpion’s lair. Scary, but
potentially transformative. During the Scorpio phase of relationships,
we make deeper investments and attachments with a partner. We share
emotions, possessions, finances, sexuality, and perhaps create a child,
a business or joint project together. This might be described as
the “urge to merge” phase. Out of this merging may come greater growth
and renewal for both persons involved.
One problem we have had as
a culture for some time now is we rush into the Scorpio aspects of relationship
before taking time for the Libran “getting to know you” period. We
have gotten involved sexually without courtship rituals. We have
moved in together, borrowed money from each other, and expected sexual
fidelity without knowing each other socially very well.
The problem with this Scorpio-too-soon
approach is that the intensity level of Scorpio cannot be sustained indefinitely.
Like the heat of a fierce fire, relationships that begin with these premature
attempts at intimacy often burn themselves out. We may find that
we feel only lust for a person that we don’t really like, or grow bitter
toward someone we once felt passionate about. In the worst cases,
Scorpio-heavy relationships can erupt in violence or difficult divorces.
So, for each of us, it’s
good to keep some distance in our associations at first, and aim for balance
in our lives between the energies of lighthearted, romantic Libra and passionate,
determined Scorpio. From the Librans in our lives, we can learn to
give others’ needs equal priority to our own, value beauty and charm, and
cultivate the art of romance. From the Scorpions we know, we can
learn to experience deep emotions, make transformative commitments, and
develop constructive uses of power and sexuality.
Of course, romantic love
being what it is, those born under these two signs may on occasion find
themselves lost in relationships, and need assistance to redefine their
essential selves. That’s something they can ask their Aries, Taurus,
Leo or Capricorn friends to help them do.
Here’s to Libra and Scorpio
– the relationship signs!
Originally appeared in
Star Club News September 1994